The Bar is Ankle High

E90: A Story About Rocks

Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Gifts...the Five Love Languages that, in 1992, were the subject of Pastor Gary Chapman's book that was used by Christians and non-Christians alike to help their intimate relationships. But are there only five love languages? And how did Chapman come up with this list anyway? This week Katie dives into the Five Love Languages and what they really mean - and then we talk about what the Love Languages of ADHD are. Tune in to find out and make sure  you're following us on Instagram to add in your own love language. 
 
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E89: A Multitude of Oddities

Welcome back to Part 2 of our series on coping with ADHD at work when you're not requesting or using a formal reasonable accommodation. Whether you aren't formally diagnosed or aren't comfortable requesting a formal accommodation, we have work arounds for you to try out. We discuss using quiet fidget items, doodling, paraphrasing and repeating instructions to ensure we understand, and setting and requesting clear deadlines. No matter what you do for work or where you are on your ADHD journey, your struggles are valid and you are still deserving of respect in the workplace. Make sure you're following us on social media and tell us on today's post on IG what workplace hacks you use to manage your own ADHD! 
 
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E88: Lightbulb Staring Contest

This week Garet tells us all about what to do at work if you're NOT comfortable asking for a formal reasonable accommodation from your employer. We discuss things like how we cope with difficulty sitting still in meetings, struggling to keep track of projects and deadlines, dealing with distractions in the office, and managing time and organization. Katie and Garet discuss their experiences with test-taking, time management, and workplace challenges related to ADHD. They share tips for focusing on one task at a time, using background noise to stay engaged, and organizing emails and voicemails, as well as using YouTube tutorials to learn skills and brush up on skills that maybe your boss thinks you're supposed to know but literally only one person on YouTube and Bill Gates know how to do. And no matter what, remember that you are doing a great job and you deserve a little treat for getting through another workday with ADHD. It's HARD!
 
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E87: Non-Binary Alligator Satan

Have you ever heard that ADHDers are great in a crisis? Or perhaps you have noticed that any time the proverbial shit hits the fan, you're able to handle the emergency with poise and aplomb? Well in this week's episode we explore why ADHD brains are maybe BETTER equipped to handle emergencies than our neurotypical counterparts. Inspired by the April 5, 2024 New Jersey Earthquake heard 'round the world, we dive into emergency preparedness tips, too! So grab your bug out bag and your cash and tune in!
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E86: Permanent Back Nipples

There's something in the air and we're feeling it too - the pressure to get that Spring Cleaning Itch scratched. It's a lot of pressure - the stores are FULL of cleaning and organizing supplies, aids, tricks, hacks, EVERYTHING. Yet -- we have ADHD so do those really work for us? Today we talk about how to engage in spring cleaning when you're neurodivergent so you don't get burnt out, overwhelmed, or trapped by ADHD paralysis. What's your favorite ADHD cleaning tip? 
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E85: There's Something About Weird

As promised, we're back to discuss requesting reasonable accommodations for your ADHD at work. It's a topic that we can talk ourselves out of "deserving" but the fact of the matter is - RAs don't have to be permanent and they don't have to be something you even use every day! This week's episode discusses the statutory framework for the Americans with Disabilities Act and its amendments - but make sure you check with your own state's disability support office to ensure you're getting access to all the services you're entitled to and always always always - when it doubt, check with an employment law attorney. To our international listeners, we hope this episode will help you get ideas on how to navigate the systems in place in your own countries but ultimately - Katie could not handle researching the laws in other countries given her attempt to understand the EU's VAT system.
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SOURCES: 
https://add.org/adhd-masking/#:~:text=Masking%20is%20when%20a%20person,who%20don't%20have%20ADHD
https://www.additudemag.com/neurodivergent-women-in-workplace-adhd-masking/
https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-law-americans-with-disabilities-act/

E84: Somebody Suck Me

Okay fine - the jig is up and we're finally peeling back the costumes we wear in public and tackling a topic that especially effects those of us who were diagnosed later in life - MASKING. What is it? Why do we do it? How can we stop? Should we stop? Tune in to find out just how attacked we BOTH are this week!
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https://www.additudemag.com/neurodivergent-women-in-workplace-adhd-masking/
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E83: Journalism Boners

Everyone is talking about it and SO. ARE. WE. As part of our new regular show-and-tell of our hyperfixations, this month Katie is teaching Garet allllll about the British Royal Family and asks the question that is currently dominating the internet: Where is Kate? Where's Kate Middleton a/k/a Her Royal Highness, Catherine, Princess of Wales. She hasn't been seen in public since Christmas Day, 2023, and since then, we have a royal motorcade heading to a hospital on December 28, 2023, an announcement of some sort of "planned abdominal surgery" that also required cancellation of every Kate appearance scheduled through Easter 2024 that occurred on January 14, and most recently - the photoshop fiasco heard 'round the world on March 10th, we're finally starting to genuinely doubt the safety and security of the Princess of Wales. The first woman to hold the title since the divorce of Lady Diana Spencer and then-Prince Charles (now King Charles) - is the title cursed? Is the engagement ring Kate wore that famously belonged to her dearly departed mother-in-law cursed? Well, it's not featured in that notorious Mothering Sunday photo, that's for damn sure. Tune in to catch up on theories, hear our conclusions, and tell us your own theories in our Instagram post for today's episode!
 
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E82: ADH-Dick

Born from a group chat conversation that was overflowing with suggestions, Garet brings us this week's relaxed fit episode with a riveting game of "would you rather - ADHD edition!" We discuss things like waiting in line, being in loud crowds, tight clothes, wet clothes, and the real plague on society these days - The Trader Joes Parking Lot. 
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E81: The Fupa Fisters

This week we take a deep dive into how our ADHD has affected our own self-image throughout our lives - both pre- and post-diagnosis! And since we just can't help ourselves, we talk about how our body image changes during and after pregnancy and how having ADHD and already being prone to comparing our own success and progress to our peers is a constant battle with ourselves and with the media we consume every day. So if you struggle with your body image and have ADHD - this episode is for you!
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